WHY WE FIND MEN WHO SHATTER GENDER NORMS ATTRACTIVE

The internet literally broke the day Harry Styles decided to bless all our Instagram feed with pictures of him wearing a pink tutu. While many had questions for him, the other half [which includes me ;)] fell in love with him all over again. Harry is one such example of men who proudly bid gender norms adieu and that, you guys, is a 100% attractive!

The idea of gender norms goes a long way back as per some studies. Take the beginning of evolutionary processes into consideration, when a man was the food gatherer and was expected to show more dominant traits. The woman, on the other hand, stayed back being the home-maker taking care of the kids and was meant to develop emotions that lean towards softer traits. This, then became, what we call today as the gender norms.

The society expects a man to show of his masculinity by being bold, holding back his emotions and being strong. That is where we all went wrong. Why does strength have to be associated with a gender, why do tears the most natural form of expression, have to be something only women can afford? And the more society hyped these stereotypes the more men thought that their utter tough, so called masculinity is what we women find attractive!

False! My men, I need you to understand and take in deep into your soul one thing, that we women appreciate you being vulnerable, talking about your emotions, being considerate and caring. If you ignore a woman's text or respond with a lame 'OK' for her long texts and think you nailed it and that she'll be crawling back to you, WRONG!

Attitude and ego was never attractive to us. If it is to someone, I would love to know who these women are. We love men who believe that their identity of being masculine lies in their ability to be kind, humble and caring.

You want to wear a skirt? Go wear it boy and nail it like no one ever did before. You want to talk about being kind? You want to care and make it cool? DO IT! Don't hold yourself back and think that women might feel weird about it because in all its true sense, a fine woman appreciates a man who knows how to carry himself well.

This is exactly why I got into BTS! A KPOP group that is now a musical sensation made me realize that my ideas of an ideal man are outdated and they needed serious upgrades. While many asked me about my strange fondness for these 7 Korean men I knew exactly what my answer was. I have seen them wear makeup, cry, talk about friendship, love and emotions in a way no other man would dare to. That my friends is attractive! I love how kind and humble Harry is, that is again - attractive!

Attraction has more to do with your kind self than your egoistic one. The more egoistic the person is, the less friends they have. Men should freely express themselves today without the fear of being left out or finding oneself less lovable. You be you and witness the world willingly embracing your true self!

Kindness is attractive! We all can agree!

2020 is here and a new year demands a new time, a time where attraction should have less to do with attire and looks, masculinity or femininity and more with what the person carries within. Man or woman, we ultimately are all humans carrying bundle of joy and love and the world should readily share it around.

I love that we belong to a generation where these strong lines of what a man or a woman is supposed to do or feel is being blurred out. We have embraced each others strengths, uniqueness and flaws with ease and though we have a long way to go, these tiny steps will led us to a future where we are all kind, supportive and affectionate towards each other irrespective of what gender one belongs to!